Persecuting Grimke

the most interesting part of Grimke's Letters, to me, was on page 1051 when she quotes the association as saying "we appreciate the unostentatious prayers and efforts of woman in advancing the cause of religion at home and abroad, in leading religious inquirers to *the pastor* for instruction." It seemed to me this could be revealing she suffered from a persecution complex to some degree.  Given how clearly she had genuinely been persecuted for being a woman in her time, it is easy to see she could start seeing *everything* as evidence of her persecution, but I am not convinced that being asked to send religious questioners to the pastor instead of answering herself is evidence of persecution.  While it is clearly sexist and unjust that the church wouldn't let women be pastors, it is not as clear to me that asking anyone that wasn't a pastor to send those with questions to the pastor is persecution.  If the pastor is asking women to send questioners to him and not asking men to do the same, that would certainly be unfair, but there is no evidence of that from Grimke's writing.  It isn't always wrong for those in authority to ask amateurs not to answer themselves.
While sexism, racism, and every other prejudice is bad and should be stopped, not everything bad that happens to women or racial minorities is evidence of prejudice.
What makes this interesting to consider is that Grimke had very good reason to think a pastor asking women not to answer questions themselves but to send them to him is sexist--she wasn't just some conspiracy nut finding evidence of JFK's real killers in a Coke add.  What she saw was a man in a job she wasn't allowed to hold telling her not to help others, as he could do it better than her--which certainly seems pretty bad. Especially after seeing sexism in other places her whole life, it isn't hard to see things her way.  It may, however, have been as innocuous as a math teacher asking a bright student to send other students having difficulty to the teacher instead of answering themselves.
I'm not trying to say that she didn't suffer real harm from prejudice because of her gender, or even for sure that this wasn't sexist of the pastor.  I just think we don't have enough from the text to definitively say this was sexist, and it is interesting to consider how seeing the world through a certain lens (everyone is sexist, in this case) can make it difficult to see the world without that lens.